20 Years of Self Delusion
About a week ago I found myself having to admit that I’d been acting irrationally for many years. I was diagnosed 20 years ago as a Type 2 diabetic, and the fact that I got the disease was completely my fault.
About a week ago I found myself having to admit that I’d been acting irrationally for many years. I was diagnosed 20 years ago as a Type 2 diabetic, and the fact that I got the disease was completely my fault.
I believe that one key to the success of our marriage is that we look for things to celebrate. Birthdays, holidays, and vacations are great occasions for celebration, but if I find them few and far between in the course of a long year, how much more so in a very long marriage.
In short, the world beats us up, and can leave us feeling like we’re far behind in a game we should be winning. When our spirits are down, we need a cheerleader. We need someone who believes in us, encourages us, and reminds us of past victories when times were tough.
On the day of our wedding there was no way I could have imagined us having a contentious marriage, but often the only way we learn is by going through the laborious classroom of life, and for me that meant repeating several grades more than once.
Do you think Steven Spielberg would really care if he won the Macedonian People’s Choice award for best director? Can you imagine him putting on a tux and flying into its capital Skopje to accept the trophy? Looking back that is the way I view some of my victories in our marriage.
Sometimes not knowing how crazy something is, is a good thing
– Steve Wozniak, The Pirates of Silicon Valley
Becky and I had no idea what we were getting into when we married.
At one point in that semester the weight of my father’s life experiences came crashing down on me and like the denouement of a mystery novel, my father’s words and actions finally made sense to me. The scales fell from my eyes, but it wasn’t until the last few months of my father’s life.
I became the go-to person to explain what was taught in the college classes that day. I often had students tell me that I had a knack for explaining things in a way that anyone could understand. After hearing this kind of comment over and over another crazy idea began to form in my mind. I could be a teacher.
I remember times my father’s employer had not works, so he would spend the day collecting bottles he could return for the deposit. One day I heard him say that his efforts had made him at little over $2.
When we are away for a week Maggie will cry and at times go a little frantic which means knocking things off tables around the house. Knowing that she suffers from separation anxiety while we’re away I always plan to make myself available to her for some extended petting time when we return, but Maggie has other plans.